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| موضوع: Ten power tips to increase your conversation skills الإثنين مايو 11, 2009 1:05 am | |
| Ten power tips to increase your conversation skills What is the difference between a tasty, mouth watering French Fry and a bland, take-one-bite and throw it way French Fry? Salt. That's it! A little salt will transform an unsalted French Fry into a slice of heaven. It is the same way with people skills.
There are little power tips which will boost a person's people skills significantly. When you learn the 10 power tips, your people skills will be ignited and you will dynamically alter the way people respond to you. Power Tip #1: Give attention to others by noticing them.
People want attention. From a three month old baby to a 55 year old CEO, every person wants others to give them attention. Give attention to others and they will enjoy talking with you. You will become a great conversation partner. By noticing what others are saying, you may be amazed at how many new thoughts enter your mind. These will give you fuel for conversation. How do you give attention? You give attention by noticing others. You notice what they are saying. You notice their presence and welcome them. You make little comments while they are talking to show you are noticing what they are saying. Doing this will give attention and enhance your conversation skills. Don't delay! Use tip #1 and give attention by noticing others. Conversation Tip #2: Smile People will spend thousands of dollars for plastic surgery to change their face. However, in two seconds a person can instantly transform their face so it makes others want to talk with them. Smiling is so simple, but the results are tremendous. Smile when you are talking and greeting people. You will find it will make you a fun person to talk with. Your voice will start to sound warm and friendly. It will make you feel more confident. Try it today and see the results! Imagine a dish of vanilla ice cream sitting on a table. On the right side is a bottle of chocolate syrup. To the left is a bottle of motor oil. You have a choice of either dynamically increasing the taste (if you like chocolate) or totally ruining the ice cream with motor oil. Which would you choose? (Stupid question!) Unfortunately, some people have a personality which is about as attractive as motor oil on ice-cream! They seem non approachable. A frown decorates their face. They have a negative attitude drenched with criticism and pessimism. It is almost like they have loudspeakers located on their shoulders blaring, "Stay away!" It is nearly impossible to carry on a good conversation with them. Either they talk too much or they kill a conversation with silence. Hardly anyone wants to be around them. They repel people like water does cats!
This does not have to be! A person can develop a personality which attracts people and makes others feel comfortable in their presence.
Tip #3: Be interested in others. There is one factor which makes a person great at conversation. That is interest. If you are interested in others, you will be excellent at making small talk and talking with people. You will leave a great impression with others. It will be easy for you to make friends. However, if you don't know how to show interest, your conversation skills will suffer. You will struggle with shyness and talking with others. As you interact with others, show interest in them. You will be amazed at the results. Tip #4: Walk into conversation prepared. No one would ever think of leaving their house and meeting people with no clothes on! Yet, many interact with others without being clothed with conversation questions and starters! This leads to boring parties and uncomfortable silences in conversations. Don't be caught unprepared! Always have some good conversation starters and topics tucked in the back of your mind. Pull these out when you need to start conversations, break silent pauses, or turn a boring conversation into an interesting one. Better yet, before you go on a date, attend a party, meeting, etc., think of some good conversation questions and topics. Using 90 seconds to prepare can ignite your conversation abilities and make a social event fun! So long, Power Tip #5: Notice something about the other person and let them know you noticed it.
Take a moment and observe each person you come in contact with. They may have just gotten a haircut, be wearing an interesting ring, be in a good mood, etc. Now bring it to their attention. You could compliment them on their haircut. Maybe you could comment on their car and ask where they bought it. The options are endless, but the results are the same - people will be pleasantly surprised and think highly of you. They will be pleased and flattered at your attention. Try it and see what results you experience. Power Tip #6: Use a person's name when greeting and talking to them.
There is a word which grabs attention, causes people to listen, and gains you respect. It is the most powerful word in the world. This powerful word is the other person's name. When you approach a clerk in a store, use their name. Refer to your conversation partner by name during the conversation. You will find that it instantly grabs people's attention. It also helps you remember other people's names. Try it today and you will see instant results. A recent study showed that 48% of people consider themselves shy. For years I battled shyness. Then I discovered key principles which have allowed me to conquer shyness. Now I fearlessly walk up to people and start conversations. I enjoy traveling because of the people I meet. Power Tip #7: When making a statement which could cause an argument or upset others, start with Dale Carnegie's special phrase: "I could be wrong, I frequently am and correct me if I am, but..." Now you might not use the long phrase, but the principle is the same. To your Boss: "I could be wrong and correct me if I am, but would it not be better if we sent these papers priority mail?"
To your coworkers: "I could be wrong, I frequently am, but does not raising taxes stifle the economy?" This tactic will allow you to state your opinion while promoting discussion and exchange of ideas. Have fun applying this tip! PS. Learn how to keep a conversation flowing smoothly. Don't let your conversations sputter and die. Use specific keys to add power to any conversation. Power Tip #8: Sincerely praise and give a specific complement to a person. Are you feeling down today? Apply this tip and you will brighten your day as well as someone else's day.
"Those eggs were good." "You did a good job with processing that report speedily." "Your doing a good job cleaning the mirror." "Thank you for checking out my groceries." "Thanks for the report." "I appreciate your help." Etc.
Be careful though! If you do not normally do this, ease into the habit slowly. You don't want to start causing heart attacks with your friends! Have a great day, Power Tip #9: Make eye contact and note the eye color of the other person's eyes when greeting each the person. This will instantly give you an air of confidence. Eyes are powerful. They can show distrust and shyness or they can show confidence and friendliness. Making eye contacts shows you are confident and can be trusted. Don't forget to smile! Try it and see the results.
Power Tip #10: Remember something about a person and bring it to their attention. "How did that baseball game go with your son last week?" "What did you think of the movie ______ you said you were going to last Friday?" "Next week is your Birthday is it not?"
This makes another person's day and helps build relationships. This is last tip. I hope these power tips have helped you.
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